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Member Advice: Communication with the Ex
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Created about 1 year ago
This past month, I have received several requests regarding Single Parent dating Advice. One of them caught my immediate attention, and it read something like this: “I am dating a SingleDad and he communicates with his ex-wife too much, how do I stop him?”
Here is the article: www.singledad.com/dating-and-relationships/articles/Advice_from_RJ_Communication_with_Your_Ex_1247345186.php
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Created about 1 year ago 3 to 5 times a day?!!! Unless they have a child or family member that is sick and conditions are changing regularly, there is no reason the ex-spouses should be on the phone so much. I talk to my ex-wife 5 to 10 times in a YEAR, and those conversations are about my visitation times with our son ... "How do I stop him?" .. My answer is "You don't." She needs to find a new boyfriend. (I better go see my shrink because now I'm giving relationship advice!) |
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Created about 1 year ago The only communication my ex has with me is when she assaults me, yells at me, or accuses me of something. I really wish I had a little communication with the ex. |
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Created about 1 year ago Good advice from RJ. I have a good relationship with my son's father. We talk daily or at least every other day. I would just add to RJ's advice that she should also stay open...check her stories about what's happening at the door and give him the space to be honest. There are many possibilities, including that he may be trying to protect her from drama between the two of them and may not realize the impact it's having on their relationship. There's no "right" way to co-parent, imho, so be open to the possibility that he's trying to figure it out and that her being honest about how she's feeling may just be part of that process. |
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Created about 1 year ago There is little communication between me & my ex. I even signed up for the state to collect my child support so I didn't need to deal with her. For me, talking with her is just setting myself up for more empty promises that will let me and the kids down. So why?
She calls the kids about every three weeks or a month. Maybe visits every three or four months - or when I drag her back to court. Living half way across the country with the guy she was running around with there just isn't much that she can do for me, and frankly - I don't want the kids to see that cheaters win....
This isn't to say that I will get in the way if she wants to do something - but I'm not going out of my way to create an open channel either. I have more important things to focus on - like my boys. |
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Created about 1 year ago To PeteT... Amen my brother! |
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Created about 1 year ago I agree with Jeff... To Pete. Amen my brother. Less is best !! |
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Created 11 months ago I have no choice as he is 11 months olf. I'm trying to get along as much as possible and so far so good
Will have my fingers crossed for the next 17 years |
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Created 9 months ago def. sounds like the guy in the article is still emotionally involved with the ex. Best to take a Joe Friday 'Just the facts' approach in all comms, phone calls to an absolute minimum, only email, and then only to arrange visits per the parenting plan. |
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