Single Parent Dating: Getting Through a Breakup

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SingleDad wants to help you understand Single Parent Dating from a Man’s perspective. How To Date a Divorced Dad is the Q&A Single Parent Dating Advice section on SingleDad. This month, learn about getting through the first break up. Read more.

Ask SingleDad: Getting Through a Breakup

SingleDad wants to help you understand Single Parent Dating
from a Man’s perspective. How To Date a Divorced Dad is the Q&A Single
Parent Dating Advice section on SingleDad. Our question this month comes from a.

Dear Single Dad,

My name is Mark and I am writing to you for advice. I have just experienced my first
romantic relationship after divorcing my former wife just 2 years ago. To tell you a little about myself, I am
a 45 year old divorced single dad of one beautiful daughter who will be 10
years old in just a few short months.
We live comfortably in Cincinnati with our pet cat and fish. It was difficult to even begin dating
again after the entire divorce process, but I found that I clicked with this
woman extremely well and that it would be stupid to deny myself such a
wonderful opportunity to bond again with another human being. However, after 6 months of serious
dating I came to realize that the age gap that was present was becoming
something too large to ignore, and it was making me, honestly, quite
uncomfortable having a daughter who was also so close in age to my significant
other. I just couldn’t picture
myself with her long-term because of the discomfort I had with the age
differences between her and then me and my daughter. She was wanting to share her bigger dreams in life with me
and looking to build a family – but I did not want any more children, and I
wasn’t able to share those same dreams with her. One thing led to another and it’s rather unfortunate to say,
but we are now broken up and I am rather feeling the break-up blues. What is some advice you can give me to
help me get through this and move on with my life in a positive direction?

Much Appreciated,

The Break-up Blues Boy

Dear Break-up Blues Boy,

I’m going to ask you to look at the positives in this
situation – something I know that can be difficult coming right out of a
break-up, but it’s what you have to do in order to move forward from this. What are the positives, you may find
yourself asking, and I’ll tell you: you now know what love feels like again and
you also know that you’re still able to love again. One of the hardest things to do coming out of a divorce is
getting enough courage and strength within to feel okay about going out and
looking for another person to share your love with, and you’ve already
conquered that battle. You should
have enough confidence within you to realize that you are capable of loving
again, which you will need to carry with you as you go back out into the dating
scene. Breaking up is never fun,
but let’s just say that this is one of those situations where your post-divorced
life can show you that it is possible for you to love again.

Single Parent Love

A song pops into my mind as I write this and I feel that
it’s applicable to this situation.
You know how music can speak to you in a way that normal speech
cannot? I think you may find
something of meaning within the lyrics and gentle guitar riffs of this Zac
Brown Band song, called "Goodbye in Her Eyes." This song talks about the revelation that Zac comes to when
he realizes that his relationship with the girl he loves is dead and
through. It’s important to come to
terms with reality, and if something is ending it’s okay to end it and move
on. In life you must do what you
want to do, because you only get one life and I sure think that it should be
spent happy. This song is sung
with sadness, of course, but it also gives me comfort in the thought that even
though this may be the end of something right now, it isn’t the end of love for
the rest of your life. Remember:
you can love again! And you
will! So, Break-up Blues Boy, I
ask you to keep your chin up and your head high and remember that this isn’t
the end of everything, just the end of one thing, but the beginning of many new
things to come. You already know
that love is possible, and that it is possible for you to love again. So throw on some good tunes, eat a
little comfort food if you must, and then get right back out there when you’re
ready! And don’t forget to look at
the positives!

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Richard JaramilloRichard “RJ” Jaramillo, is the Founder of SingleDad.com,
a website and social media resource dedicated to single parenting and specifically for the newly divorced, re-married, widowed and single Father with children.
RJ is self employed, entrepreneur living in San Diego and a father of three children. The mission of SingleDad is to help the community of Single Parents
“Make Life Happen…Again!”

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Richard “RJ” Jaramillo, is the Founder of SingleDad.com, a website and social media resource dedicated to single parenting and specifically for the newly divorced, re-married, widowed and single Father with children. RJ is self employed, entrepreneur living in San Diego and a father of three children. The mission of SingleDad is to help the community of Single Parents “Make Life Happen…Again!”