Over the past 25 Days, SingleDad editor, RJ Jaramillo took on the challenge of joining a new fitness program with a group of 10 other Dads. The program is called, Insanity Fitness and just like the title; this program is challenging. Read how the group, Insanity Dads has gone through the ups and downs and experienced the breakdown, breakthrough…
Dad Blog: The Breakdown, Breakthrough.
Over the past 25 Days, SingleDad editor, RJ Jaramillo took
on the challenge of joining a new fitness program with a group of 10 other
Dads. The program is called, Insanity
Fitness and just like the title; this program is challenging. Read how the group, #InsanityDads has gone through the ups
and downs and experienced the breakdown, breakthrough…
Almost a third of the way through my Insanity Fitness
program; my Dads group had a breakdown. There were a few obstacles that created
the perfect storm for this to happen. First, the holiday school schedule was a
little weird this year; Christmas and New Years were on a Tuesday, and there
was a long period of kids being off from school and at home. As the leader of
my group, I let me group know that I had a out-of-town, family commitment and
was not able to attend two classes. Little did I know that my announcement
started an avalanche of dropouts…
I was a little caught off guard when I started receiving the
emails and texts from my 10 member, #InsanityDads
group. They all seemed to be organized and to the point. It appears that there
were about 5 of the Dads that really didn’t want to go through this program and
were finally getting a chance to speak their peace with me. I felt like I was
on a Dr. Phil show as I attentively listen to each of their complaints, (The
work-outs are too hard, I can’t find the time, I am happy being fat). As a
result, I scheduled a meeting for all 10 Dads to meet and discuss this
dilemma. There just happen to be
another bowl game on TV and I had offered to host the meeting at a sports bar.
As the story goes, I was able to hear that a lot of my
friends were basically not interested in doing this program and felt obligated
out of guilt and friendship to enroll. At least for 5 of these dads, their
fitness was not a priority or at least the Insanity
Fitness program was not for them. As the stories kept rolling in, I realized
a valuable lesson; I had to make sure that each of my friends knew that their
decision was entirely up to them.
I didn’t anyone to continue these workouts for the sake of me. This
fitness program was not measuring their friendship with me, but an investment
in their Dad health.
Through a few beers and hot wings, this discussion was
valuable. I was able to connect with my Dad Friends on a different level. This
breakdown event was valuable to all of us, especially me. I was able to realize
how much some of my friends were not able to speak their peace and feared
losing me as their friend. The breakthrough had to happen in order to discover
what was really going on in my Dads group. As awkward as it was, I am thankful
for the event happening.
When our meeting adjourned, I had 5 Dads who wanted to continue
this journey towards better health, and continue the Insanity Fitness Program. The other 5 Dads will continue to do
their own thing and I am in complete support of their Dad Health and Fitness.
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Richard “RJ” Jaramillo, is the Founder of SingleDad.com,
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RJ is self employed, entrepreneur living in San Diego and a father of three children. The mission of SingleDad is to help the community of Single Parents
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