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6 Tips for
Enjoying Father’s Day as a Single Dad
Holidays often come with mixed blessings – they are a time
of joy, but often a time of stress. Holidays can be especially difficult for single
dads. One of the most stressful holidays for single dads is Father’s Day.
Fathers who don’t have primary custody of their children may only spend part of
the day with their kids, and sometimes not see them at all on their special
Having the Right Mindset on Father’s Day
One of the best ways to deal with any stress on Father’s Day
is to have the right mindset. Eliminate any negative thoughts and get rid of
any emotional baggage you may be carrying. Enjoy the day for what it is – a
celebration of fatherhood. Even if you have to spend it alone, relax and have a
6 Tips for Having a Great Father’s Day
to the Ex. What, talk to the ex? How can that possibly make your day
better? If you talk to your ex ahead of time, you can make plans to see
your children on your special day. Communicating ahead of time is the key.
Don’t be confrontational, just be pleasant and precise. Most issues can be
solved with some planning and a few negotiating skills. Remember, you can
catch more flies with honey than you can with vinegar!
- Have a
plan. Just as you need to plan ahead and speak with your ex, you should
also have a plan for the day. Find a fun activity both you and your kids
will enjoy. Figure out all the details before you go – directions, price,
time, food, and anything else that may come up during the day. Planning
ahead will make your day more fun and less stressful!
involve the girlfriend. If you have a new girlfriend, let her spend the
day with her father; not with your kids. Your kids will enjoy it more if
they get to spend the entire day with dear old dad; they don’t want to
have a third wheel mucking up the fun and throwing off the balance!
forget that Mother’s Day comes first. Mother’s Day is in May; Father’s Day
is in June. The example you set with your ex and with your kids on
Mother’s Day may help you get what you want on your big day! Make sure to
acknowledge the importance of Mother’s day and acquiesce to her wishes,
and your day will most likely go much smoother.
- Be flexible.
You may think going to the park is the perfect way to spend Father’s Day
with the kids, but they may have their heart set on hanging out at the
beach. Parents are always
making sacrifices for their kids – even though it’s Father’s Day,
sacrifices may need to be made to make the day the best it can be!
it! No matter what you do, have a great time. Just relax and forget any
and all stresses in your life. If you are having issues with your ex,
forget them for the day. If work is difficult, take one day and get your
mind away from the office. Father’s Day is your special corner of the
calendar. Even single dads need to relax and enjoy it!
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