For some guys, one of the biggest hurdles to get over in adulthood, is hanging out with your wife’s friends, especially the ones you don’t like. Well, now that you’re a parent, you get stuck in this situation all the time with “play dates”; they have to happen because it’s healthy for your kids to play around other kids their age.
For some guys, one of the biggest hurdles to get over in adulthood, is hanging out with your wife’s friends, especially the ones you don’t like. For a lot of guys out there, it’s difficult to be stuck in a room with strangers, no matter who’s friends they are. Let’s face it, men are egotistical and it’s difficult for us to be stuck in a circumstance with other egos. We don’t want hear the opinions of other guys; we’re busy trying to figure out our own!
Well, now that you’re a parent, you get stuck in this situation all the time with "play dates"; they have to happen because it’s healthy for your kids to play around other kids their age. I don’t know about you but the first thing I think of when a play date is about to happen is–Who the hell are these other parents? The last thing you want as a busy dad is to get stuck around other dads with whom you don’t agree.
Well get over it! Play dates can actually be as fun as they are for your kids if you just let them happen and get creative. Try something new, do something you wouldn’t normally do with your kids. Maybe even communicate with the other parents well in advance and let them pick a place. It will be new to you, less thinking on your part and turn into an idea you hadn’t considered before!
Why not meet with the other dads for coffee and throw out ideas. Plan a SingleDad meetup in your area, have weekly discussions; it could turn into a great resource that goes beyond just play dates. You never know, you might make new buddies with the other dads; maybe your egos are more aligned than you thought.
Try a few of these:
- City Park/Playground
- Chuck E. Cheese (always coupons in Sunday’s paper)
- Cheap bleacher seats at the ball game
- Picnic/Group Barbecue (try to avoid arguments about the "perfect" flame)
- Backyard Parties (trade off with other dads)
- Group Camping trips (make it a Play-Weekend)
- Cooking dates (cookies, fun-craft-like foods such as taco/burrito bars, make-your-own pizza parties)
- Museums (Art, History, Science – Balboa Park)
- Theme Parks (check into special group rates)
- Nature Scavenges/Trips
Richard “RJ” Jaramillo, is the Founder of SingleDad.com,
a website and social media resource dedicated to single parenting and specifically for the newly divorced, re-married, widowed and single Father with children.
RJ is self employed, entrepreneur living in San Diego and a father of three children. The mission of SingleDad is to help the community of Single Parents
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