How To Be a Better Dad: Work, Work, Work 

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How To Be a Better Dad: Work, Work, Work 

How To Be a Better Dad is the fatherhood and co-parenting section on SingleDad. Share and exchange great fatherhood advice from our members who are in all stages of fatherhood. Today, we learn about how to balance work, family, and personal life. 

 

Dear SingleDad, 

I have 2 children ages 8 and 9. Their mother and I are split up so I see them every other week. I love our schedule, but I don’t feel I have any balance in my life due to my work. I do everything I can to have one on one time with the kids because I work so much, but then that is such a worry of mine I don’t have my own down time. I don’t know how to figure it out. 

-Randy, 39 

Props to you for being so mindful of your children, your own needs, and your hard work! I can say by the sounds of it you really do everything you can and more. That does not go unnoticed! A few tips are down below and I hope it can help. 

  • Time Off 

I know time off from work is not ideal due to financial reasons and “mental health days” aren’t really understood yet. But truly taking some days off to spend time with your children or to have a lazy day, binge watching shows, and eating/sleeping is needed. Speak with your employer about time off because we all deserve it at times. 

  • Take Advantage

When/if  you do have days off from work and your children, use that time the way you want to! When/if you have days off but are with your children use that time wisely! Put your phone away, play games, have a picnic, be present. Understand we really live moment to moment so why spend it focusing on what happened at work or how the work week will start? Your children will notice you’re present and that will be fulfilling for you all. 

  • Cut Hours or New Job 

Are you happy at this current job? Does it bring stability? Are you able to cut back on hours? If it’s an option to cut hours or find a new job, find the pros and cons of each, and create a plan. We all work, but we aren’t here to only work. That is not the most important part of our lives. 

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