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How To Be a Better Dad:
Parenting and Politics
How To Be a Better Dad is the Fatherhood and co-parenting
section on SingleDad. This month, learn about how to talk about politics with
your kids when both parents political views are different.
My name is Mike and I am a 47-year old Divorced Dad living
in Hoboken, New Jersey. I have an 11-year old son and a 9-year old daughter.
Both of my kids are good kids. I have been divorced going on three years now
and my ex-wife and I are on better talking terms. It seems like when she has a
steady boyfriend in her life, my relationship with her is less stressful. We
both share the responsibility of our kids during the week and have a pretty good
routine on getting our kids to school on time and picked up.
Anyways, I want talk to you and other members of SingleDad
about the subject of politics. It’s starting to be that time of year when the
TV is showing the Presidential candidates and the debates on TV. Recently, my
youngest daughter was talking about it at the dinner table with her brother and
the topics of "Democrats, Republicans, Bernie Mack, and
Donald Trump" and all sorts of noise was coming out of my 9-year old… Go figure, right? My 9-year old wanted
to know if her daddy was a Democrat or a Republican and who I was going to vote
Talking Politics with your Kids
I tell you it was a strange dinner conversation for me to
have with my two kids. I asked my daughter where she got this information; she
simply said some kids at school were talking about it and were making fun of
her when she told them her mommy was a Democrat…
At first I was mad and wanted to bust some kids faces in
when my daughter was explaining her story at school; however, cooler heads
prevailed and I told my daughter not to worry about those kids making fun of
her mother because they had no clue what they were talking about. I was hoping that this topic was going
to end, but it hasn’t. Now I have my son asking these same questions because he
is seeing it all over the news and on his facebook feeds, (by the way, I have
access to his account).
Although I am a Republican, I do not want my kids to feel
any type of pressure or allegiance to my political beliefs at this age. I would
like to know if you could offer some parenting advice on how to handle the
topic of politics.
Mike Likes Trump.
Kids these days will find anything to "tease, taunt, or
bully" another kid. I will say that I am not surprised to hear about this topic
since there is so much media attention being focused on our candidates on both
sides of the political spectrum. More drama than substance in my opinion.
I would agree with you that now is not the best time to talk
about your specific political beliefs, however, it is important for you to
defend your ex-wife’s position as well as your own as equal. In these early
stages of divorce, your children want to see, hear, and feel that both parents
have respect for each other. Co-Parenting is political and your children want
to see how you handled the bully comment about their mom.
Mom Likes Hilary, Dad likes Trump
I am going to assume that this conversation is not going to
go away in the near future, so here are some talking points I can recommend to
you to share with your children:
Make sure that they both know that this process is in the
early stages and the final elections are not decided until November of 2016
(create time and space). Explain the process about the upcoming debates and how
they sort out the candidates towards the primaries. Tell them about the
primaries. Ask them about the questions they may have or what other kids are
saying at school. Keep in mind that usually the loudest kids at school like to
be controversial and overly opinionated. Let your kids know about their voting
rights when they are the age of 18.
Turning Lemons into Lemonade
In summary, you seem to have this topic under control Mike.
Don’t get too detailed by explain the entire process of the debates, primaries,
etc. This is an opportunity to show you kids that you are a good co-parent and
respect their mother’s political beliefs equal to yours. It is also an
opportunity to educate your kids about our country’s voting process and the
politics involved that bring us to the final vote next November.
Keep me posted.
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