How To Be a Better Dad is the Fatherhood and co-parenting section on SingleDad. This month, learn about to comfort your kid when they are in a state of embarrassment… Read more.
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How To Be a Better Dad is the Fatherhood and co-parenting
section on SingleDad. This month, learn about to comfort your kid when they are
in a state of embarrassment… Read more.
Hi my name is Burt and I am from Salt Lake City, UT. My
15-year-old son is in the band at his high school. During one of his
performances he got a little so nervous that he peed his pants in front of a
big crowd of people. He was very embarrassed and ran to my wife and I. He was
crying so we left. A couple of people recorded it and posted it all over social
media. I come to you for help on how to comfort my son during his time of embarrassment.
Sincerely Concerned parent,
Dear concerned parent,
I can totally understand where you are coming from with your
concerns with your son. That must have been hard to watch as a parent to see
your kid publicly humiliated. Therefore it’s very important to talk to them and
make sure they know its okay. He is not the only one that has done that before.
It’s not easy to see your kid sad or in any pain at all.
I’ve had a similar experience with one of my kids to actually. During one of my
son’s football games in high school he was very nauseated, therefore he threw
up in the middle of the field during one of the games. This game wasn’t just
any game it was homecoming! Tons of people were there so he was embarrassed for
a long time. It was so bad he didn’t even want to show his face at school.
Spend time together
Spend more time with your son so he feels the comfort of his
parent. Take him to get some ice cream or something and talk to him about the
situation. He will know that you are thinking about the situation and wanting
to make him feel better. Make sure to enlighten him on the fact that he is not
alone and that you are there for him.
Try not to just spend more time with him since the incident.
Just casually try to spend more time with your son so he has support from his
family. Tell him some embarrassing things that have happened to you in your
past. Make him laugh! That’s a great part of bonding; being able to relate
something from your kid’s life’s from your past.
Learn from the experience
Make sure he knows that it’s happened and there’s nothing he
can do about it anymore. Everything
happens for a reason. Peeing your pants isn’t always bad. Well in the moment it
is. At the end of the day it will make him a stronger person and will be able
to stand up to bullies if they try to bring this up later on in life.
This will be a great bonding experience for both of you
guys. If some sort of embarrassment happens again in the future, you will have
insight on how to control the situation.
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