How to Be a Better Dad: The Three Hardest Words

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Fatherhood advice for the single parent on SingleDad. Learn about the three hardest words any divorced dad needs to learn how to say and how it will help your parenting skills. How to be a better Dad on SingleDad.com

How to Be a Better Dad: The Three Hardest Words

Fatherhood advice for the single parent on SingleDad. Learn
about the three hardest words any divorced dad needs to learn how to say and
how it will help your parenting skills. How to be a better Dad on SingleDad.com

The Three Hardest Words

My name is Hunter, I am a 37- year old divorced dad with a
5-year old daughter. I live in San Diego and I have been divorced for less than
a year. I am active military and I have been overwhelmed with my transition as
a single parent
. I have joint custody and my ex-spouse and she has already
moved on with another relationship and moved in with her boyfriend. Sometimes,
I feel upset, regret and basically helpless. I love my daughter and I feel she
is the only good thing that has happened to me in my life.

My question or comment is this:

Does every Divorced Dad feel like me? Right now I am
struggling building a "routine" with my daughter. She has just started school
and I feel like I am running around with my head chopped off and always feeling
that I am 5- minutes late to everything. There never seems to be enough time in
my life to manage my schedule, be a good parent, and maintain an organized
household.

military dad

Dear
Hunter,

Your feelings are heard and understood Hunter. What’s going
on for you is typical and you are not alone when it comes to the early stages
of post-divorce life for Dads. The best advice I can offer you is the same
advice I was given when I was early in my single parent life. I had three
children to manage, a 60+ plus hour job and no household management skills, (I
didn’t even know how to cook). I
was living in an apartment, my place was a mess and I can remember when my
parents came to visit me. Just picture dirty laundry everywhere, dirty dishes
filled the sink and my place smelled like a dorm room. My mother had the
courage to sit me down and look me in the eye and say: "You need to learn how
to ask for help"

I was allowing my fear, anxiety and ego get in the way of the
three hardest words. "I need help" allowed me to be vulnerable and expose me to
all the resources that I had available to help me adjust to my new life as a
single parent. In my example, by asking for help I was able to get support from
friends who taught me how to do a variety of things that I felt overwhelmed
with; from laundry, cooking, and how to manage my household.

You see Hunter,
right now, you have many friends that are sitting on the sidelines waiting for
you to "invite" them back into your life, but they are waiting for you to
invite them. All you need to do is say the three hardest words that most men
are afraid to say…

"I need help" are the most powerful words you can use to get
your friends and family back in your life and make your single parent
transition easier. Give them a try and watch how your life will change.

Keep me posted on your progress.

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