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How To Be a Better Dad:
Toy Story 3 Effect
How To Be a Better Dad is the Fatherhood and co-parenting
section on SingleDad. Share and exchange great fatherhood advice from our
members who are in all stages of fatherhood This month, one of our members
needs advice on how to address the movie, Toy Story 3 to his daughter. Read
How To Be a Better Dad
Dear SingleDad, my name is Aaron and I am a divorced dad
with an 8-year-old daughter living in Austin,Texas. I have been divorced for a
couple years now and getting back on my feet and in a routine with my work and
Nothing gets between my little daughter and I on weekends. I
focus all my attention and love towards her and we have a great relationship.
Recently, I bought a DVD copy of the movie Toy Story 3. My daughter and I
watched it together and this was a first time for both of us.
I was not expecting what happened next…
I don’t know if you are familiar with this movie, but it has
a bittersweet ending where the main character grows up and leaves for college.
The parents are left behind and the son moves on in life.
I watched and saw the tears welling up in my daughters eyes
and she screamed, " Daddy, I don’t ever want to go to college and leave you
behind…" Her sobbing didn’t stop the whole weekend. In fact, when I had dropped
her off to her mother’s house; my daughter got upset again and said she didn’t
want to stay at her mom’s because she worried about me.
Has this ever happened to you or any of your members?
The Toy Story 3 Effect
Sorry to hear what you went through. As much as I love the
Pixar movies and Disney in general; they sure know how to pull on the
heartstrings of American children. I can name a few popular moves like "UP"
that sent a lot of emails to our offices with young children dealing with
All I can tell you brother is that children of divorce have
enough change going on in their lives that a movie like Toy Story 3 is no fun
for the single parent family (on both sides).
I am very familiar with what is going on with your daughter
and it is safe to say that your daughter is normal just like any other 8-year
old. A move like Toy Story 3 shares the stages in life. Your daughter is not
capable of understanding the future. To her, the future is no different than
the present. She doesn’t see herself growing up. Every day is special and she has no concept of grade school,
middle school, high school and college. Her life is surrounded by her daily
routines and activities with schoolmates and her parents. A movie like Toy
Story 3 tells a story that is very different than her current environment. That
scared her because how the movie showed change that she is unfamiliar with.
At this stage of the parenting game, my request for you is
to remind your daughter that she does not have to worry about going to college.
In fact, tell her if she goes, you can go with her. Fathers and daughters are
special; make every moment count.
Good luck and keep me posted.
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