Dating expert and SingleDad.com contributor, David Wygant, gives advice on attraction. When you give the dirty look or something like that, you are turning off every person around you (not just that one person next to you).
I’ve been ruined. Once again, I’ve been ruined. Every time I go to Europe and eat lots of
small meals with fresh organic foods, I come back to America and the processed
foods in my favorite restaurants make me feel lousy.
Last night, I went to one of my favorite sushi
restaurants, and now I am going to be off of sushi forever. The next time I eat sushi and raw fish will
be when I am reincarnated as flipper.
The other night I ordered in Chinese food from a healthy Chinese
restaurant, and let me tell you that the next time I’ll be eating Chinese food
will be when I’m reincarnated as Wo Ming Ching the fisherman.
I miss all the wonderful meals I had in London
and in France. Oh well, I guess I’ll
just have to take another vacation soon.
Oh, and I want to personally thank everyone who
left great comments yesterday about my big announcement on the blog. If you haven’t read about my big
announcement, click here (because you missed something pretty huge).
This is something I talk about almost every
single day. In order to meet the kind of
people you most desire, you need to learn how to attract them (and not chase
I mean, how many times are you guys going to go
out on a Friday or Saturday night and chase women before you realize that it
doesn’t work. You are just what I call
chasing the night. You need to realize
that your actions — all of your actions — are picked up on by lots of
When I was in Cannes recently, I was standing
in line behind a man at a buffet. If
you’ve ever seen me in a buffet line, I act like I’ve never eaten a meal before
in my entire life. It was one at one of
those beautiful hotels in Cannes with a great breakfast buffet, and I was
really hungry and anxious to get my hands on the lox.
So I might have gotten a little too close to
the man in line in front of me, and at some point we bumped into each
other. It was really no big deal. I mean, how many times have you accidentally
bumped into someone, right?
That man, however, gave me the dirtiest look in
the world — one of those "f*^k you" looks. So I sat down at my table, and I saw him give
me yet another dirty look.
How many of you do this? How many of you accidentally bump into
someone because you get too close to them, and then give the other person a
dirty look because they invaded your personal space?
Do you realize how many other people see you
give that dirty look and see the whole interaction take place? They don’t look at the other person as the
asshole. They look at you as the
They don’t wonder what’s wrong with you because
you accidentally bumped into someone.
They wonder what’s wrong with you that you have to be such as
When we’re talking about attracting people (and
not chasing them), this is the type of thing that will not only not attract
others — but will actually repel them.
So be careful what you do.
The next time somebody is too close and they
bump into you, just smile and say "No big deal." You never know who is looking at you and
checking you out. You never know who is
getting turned off by your actions.
When you give the dirty look or something like
that, you are turning off every person around you (not just that one person
next to you). If you’ve learned anything
from what we’ve talked about, it all comes down to creating attraction.When you give the dirty look, you are actually
creating instant detraction. That may or
may not be a word, but it is the perfect term for when you doing the exact
opposite of attracting people to you (including those people of the opposite
sex you most want to attract). So
everywhere you go, be sure to avoid the art of detraction.
Richard “RJ” Jaramillo, is the Founder of SingleDad.com,
a website and social media resource dedicated to single parenting and specifically for the newly divorced, re-married, widowed and single Father with children.
RJ is self employed, entrepreneur living in San Diego and a father of three children. The mission of SingleDad is to help the community of Single Parents
“Make Life Happen…Again!”