Ask Single Dad is the Single Parent Dating Q &A Section of SingleDad. Our members share their dating experiences and ask us the tough dating questions. This week’s topic: What are the pros and cons to dating younger women?
Divorced Dad Dating: Dating Younger Women
Dear Ask SingleDad,
My name is Chuck from Bolder Colorado. I am a 43-year old
Divorced Dad with three kids, (13, 10, 8). I have been divorced for a couple
years and I am starting to date again and have a few questions about Divorced Dad Dating.
Are there any "Pros or Cons" on dating younger women? I have
found on some of these internet dating
sites, that I am attracting a wide range of ages of women. I keep myself in
great shape and most of these women that want to meet me are 10- 15 years younger
Any dating tips
you can offer me are appreciated.
-Chuck, Bolder Colorado
What the Chuck,
As a fellow member to some of these sites, there is
absolutely nothing wrong with dating a wide age range of women. Just remember,
there are a few "Divorced Dad Dating" tips that this Single Dad can offer
before you embark on this often crazy, lustful adventure:
There are many younger women who are just tired of dating men their age. Having
a stable, mature, and confident man in their life is often what attracts
younger woman to a Single Dad.
Showing that you are an active Father is a turn on to some women because it
shows them you can manage your life. Balancing Career, Family time and a social
life shows responsibility and that goes a long way with women who are tired of
the shallow, immature, boys that they meet these days. As a Divorced Dad in my
40’s, I didn’t hesitate to meet women in their late 20’s to women in their Mid
50’s. It is often tempting to date younger, so remember a few things along the
Divorced and Dating
Make sure you know what you are getting into. There is a
saying, "Look beyond the fancy wrapper" and that means you need to be aware of
some of the limitations of these younger-women relationships. Some of the
younger women that you date are also on the move. You might be a small chapter
to a very long book and you should take notice that these relationships are
often short-term. My tip is for you to be open with your partner and
communicate your dating intentions and you will be all right. Have fun dating younger, but know the
Do you Want
Another thing you need to consider is the question about
children. If things start heating up and you head into a more serious
relationship, ask yourself: what is your position on starting a new family with
a younger woman? If the younger woman you are dating wants to have kids of her
own; you got to think about it.
Dating a Younger
Woman: Introduction to your Kids?
This is especially important when it comes to your children;
do not introduce your dates to your children if you do not foresee a long-term
commitment. Nothing is worse than to show your children the "revolving door" of
your divorced dad dating life. The long-term damage to your kids goes
without saying, so be mindful of your actions and limit the exposure of your
dating life to your children until you are ready to commit to someone.
In summary, post divorce
dating is a great experience for the Single Dad as long as you follow the rules.
Dating a wide age range of women is a lot of fun but it has its limitations. As long as you know these limitations,
you will enjoy the ride. Act responsible with your dating, understand the
consequences of dating younger and communicate your intentions with your
partner. That is what Single Dad Dating
is all about.
Richard “RJ” Jaramillo, is the Founder of SingleDad.com,
a website and social media resource dedicated to single parenting and specifically for the newly divorced, re-married, widowed and single Father with children.
RJ is self employed, entrepreneur living in San Diego and a father of three children. The mission of SingleDad is to help the community of Single Parents
“Make Life Happen…Again!”