Do's & Don'ts of Online Dating

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Today, Internet dating is more the norm and it makes getting back into the dating world just a little bit easier. In this hectic world, on-line dating makes sense. Just don’t jump in with your blinders on.

When I was thrown back into the singles scene eight years ago post divorce, Internet dating was just in its infancy. There was a huge stigma attached to it. Not only was I afraid to date to begin with, I was even more fearful of meeting someone on line. There weren’t many options eight years ago.

Today, Internet dating is more the norm and it makes getting back into the dating world just a little bit easier. In this hectic world, on-line dating makes sense. Just don’t jump in with your blinders on. You most likely won’t find your ideal match on the first try. Or your fifth. Make your goals realistic and have fun.

In the past, I tried a few of the more popular sites like Match.com, Yahoo Personals and eHarmony. My best advice is to do your research.

Talk to other people who have tried different Internet dating sites and get their views on what worked best for them. Do NOT talk to people who are anti-Internet dating. They will not support you in your endeavor.

Do your research! There are trial offers for most of the bigger sites so you can get your feet wet without investing. Take advantage of these offers.

Don’t spread yourself too thin. Putting your profile on a number of different sites is certain death for your dating life. Pick a site and see how you like it. If you find it’s not a good dating resource for you, delete your profile and try another site.

Do not close your mind to meeting people who don’t have every attribute on your "perfect partner" list. Are you a perfect person? I know I’m not. Go outside of your comfort zone.

When you finally decide to enter the world of on-line dating, creating a great personal profile is the single most important thing you can do if you want to find the right person for you. Think of your profile the same way you would if you were submitting your resume for a job you really wanted. This is your one time to shine.

Before you begin, read through some of the other on-line profiles. This will help you to get a feel for what people are writing and how you can set yourself apart from the crowd. You do not have to be a talented writer. However, please use spell check! If you can, have a good friend read your profile before you post it just to double check for errors.

Do not write things you think people want to hear. Be yourself. Your goal is to meet the person who is interested in the real you. Make sure that your writing reflects that.
Do not make your profile just a list of your best qualities. Throw in a few of your quirks. No one wants to date a flawless robot.

Please, please do not falsify any information. If you’re short, don’t describe yourself as tall. If you’re curvy, don’t fool people into thinking you are a waif. Be proud of who you are!

Post several current pictures. Once again, you are going to be meeting people and you do not look the same as you did in high school.

Make sure your pictures are close up enough so people can see you! Your potential date is not interested in dating the building in the picture. Make yourself visible!

Write from the heart and show off your truest self. You want to be a great match for one person, not everyone on the site. Most of all don’t make finding someone become your number one priority. Great things take time!

Richard JaramilloRichard “RJ” Jaramillo, is the Founder of SingleDad.com,
a website and social media resource dedicated to single parenting and specifically for the newly divorced, re-married, widowed and single Father with children.
RJ is self employed, entrepreneur living in San Diego and a father of three children. The mission of SingleDad is to help the community of Single Parents
“Make Life Happen…Again!”

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Richard “RJ” Jaramillo, is the Founder of SingleDad.com, a website and social media resource dedicated to single parenting and specifically for the newly divorced, re-married, widowed and single Father with children. RJ is self employed, entrepreneur living in San Diego and a father of three children. The mission of SingleDad is to help the community of Single Parents “Make Life Happen…Again!”