Should Your Date Meet Your Kid?

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You’re dating. But when — and if — should you make the introductions?

You’re dating. But when — and if — should you make the introductions?

As a single mom who has dated off and on since my baby’s first birthday — my kid is now a third grader — I’m still trying to master this. I wish I had a clear-cut answer. But I don’t.


Here’s one no-brainer rule (which, ahem, I’ve broken):

Don’t introduce your kid on a first date. Or a second, or a third. Another one is: If you had a miserable date, tell your best friends all about it — not your kid. (I haven’t broken that one yet.)

But what happens after you’ve been seeing someone for a couple of months, and she/he seems like a winner?

I’ve read every dating guide for single parents. The most common advice is: "Keep your kids out of it."

Easier said than done. When you have a wee little one who’s more interested in mashed bananas than mommy’s boyfriend, this is easy-peasy. But eventually your kid knows what "dating" means. Mine wants to know where I’m going on Friday, and with whom.

I’m honest. I tell her, hoping that when she’s a teenager, she’ll keep me posted on her dates, too. While I keep my sex life private — like any married mom does — I don’t ignore her curiosity.


Recently, after she’d asked a slew of questions about my evening plans, I asked if she wanted to meet the new guy. Her answer? "No."

Do you introduce your dates to your kids? When?

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singlemomseeking.comRachel, a.k.a. "Single Mom Seeking," is the founder of www.singlemomseeking.com/blog, where she writes about love, sex, and what’s in between. She’s the author of the book Single Mom Seeking: Play Dates, Blind Dates, and Other Dispatches from the Dating World (2007, Seal Press). Rachel writes for Family Circle, American Baby, MSN.com and LifetimeTV.

Richard JaramilloRichard “RJ” Jaramillo, is the Founder of SingleDad.com,
a website and social media resource dedicated to single parenting and specifically for the newly divorced, re-married, widowed and single Father with children.
RJ is self employed, entrepreneur living in San Diego and a father of three children. The mission of SingleDad is to help the community of Single Parents
“Make Life Happen…Again!”

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Richard “RJ” Jaramillo, is the Founder of SingleDad.com, a website and social media resource dedicated to single parenting and specifically for the newly divorced, re-married, widowed and single Father with children. RJ is self employed, entrepreneur living in San Diego and a father of three children. The mission of SingleDad is to help the community of Single Parents “Make Life Happen…Again!”