Single Dad Dating: Separation
SingleDad wants to help you understand Single Parent Dating from a Man’s perspective. How To Date a Divorced Dad is the Q&A Single Parent Dating Advice section on SingleDad. Our topic this month, learn how to help your child with separation.
I am a single father to one son who is 5 years old. I was in a relationship with a woman for 3 years and he became very attached to her. Her and I recently broke up and it is just as hard on my son as it is me. How can I help?
That is a tough situation for all three of you. Meeting someone can be scary because vulnerability is involved. We let people in and life can take over leading to outgrowing one another. It’s an important lesson in life to know when to let go and find peace. This article will give you some tips to help your son through that.
Explain to your son why you two decided to move on and that it has nothing to do with him. It sounds like your son right now needs reassurance and comfort. Create space and time for him to express his emotions along with processing those emotions. He will be grieving like you are.
Therapy is never a bad idea. Therapy is there even if nothing feels wrong. It could help you and your son get through this grieving process together and move forward.
- Scheduled Meet Times
Depending on the situation and how both your son and ex feel, still allowing them time to see one another would be fine. It doesn’t have to be right away; many people need space after a break up. But at some point when everyone is comfortable you could allow a date where your ex could take your son to the movies, for ice cream, have dinner with her, etc. You two may feel grown apart, but your son has no part in that and has a different relationship with her. If neither of you are ready for that, your son could give her a phone call when he expresses that he misses your ex.
I hope these tips can come to use and create a positive feeling for all of you involved. Grieving is normal when it comes to ends. It doesn’t feel good and you may feel upset that it didn’t work out or how your son is feeling, but keep in mind that it’s so awesome your son has great memories with her. You two may not be meant for one another, but she made your son feel very happy and comfortable. At the end of the day, you still picked someone who had a positive impact on your child!
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