The First Date Part 2: Pitfalls

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No matter how many right things you do on a date, one really bad move can ruin a great evening. Relax, be yourself and don’t do these things!

No matter how many right things you do on a date, one really bad move can ruin a great evening. Relax, be yourself and don’t do these things!

Top 5 things NOT to do on a date:

1. Don’t Talk Negatively

Do not talk negatively about your ex-wife or past experiences in relationships. This is a big turn off to any woman. Do not reference any similarities in style mannerisms or personality to any past relationships with your date. Example: “your hair reminds me of…” Don’t even go there. Don’t exaggerate your things like wealth, job, house, car, guy friends, girlfriends. Calm and confident works just fine and is much more impressive than your “toys”.


2. Don’t Mention Your Ex

Don’t talk about your ex. Don’t play the victim, don’t be a charity case. We are all entitled to mourn a loss, but don’t make it your everyday opportunity to showcase. Go forward, not backwards!


3. Avoid Hot Button Issues

Don’t talk about religion, politics, your divorce etc… If asked about your divorce, always be humble, respectful and say something like, “I have been able to look back on the relationship and found a lot of things I could have done differently. I learned a lot about myself. I have learned to forgive myself and move forward in my life.”


4. Don’t Go to the Movies

First of all, you cannot establish any meaningful conversation staring at the screen. Secondly, save the movie nights for rainy days or when the two of you are “steady” and you talk her into playing hooky. Then you can meet up at a matinee!


5. Don’t Over Drink

This is your first date, make a good impression. Show her that you are responsible and don’t allow yourself to lose control. Avoid any competitive activities on the first date. I have too many stories about friendly competition gone wrong on a first date!

Richard JaramilloRichard “RJ” Jaramillo, is the Founder of SingleDad.com,
a website and social media resource dedicated to single parenting and specifically for the newly divorced, re-married, widowed and single Father with children.
RJ is self employed, entrepreneur living in San Diego and a father of three children. The mission of SingleDad is to help the community of Single Parents
“Make Life Happen…Again!”

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Richard “RJ” Jaramillo, is the Founder of SingleDad.com, a website and social media resource dedicated to single parenting and specifically for the newly divorced, re-married, widowed and single Father with children. RJ is self employed, entrepreneur living in San Diego and a father of three children. The mission of SingleDad is to help the community of Single Parents “Make Life Happen…Again!”