You want to have the ultimate abundance mindset in life. This goes for business and it goes for your dating life.
Let’s say you work in sales. Every January 1st you always feel like
you are broke because you’re “starting over” in a new year. You feel
like you need to get that first sale of the year.
You compare yourself constantly to the previous year and you
continually want to improve your statistics. You’re competitive. You
want to make more money and be more successful than you were in the
We all do it. I do it too. I’ve done some things I almost don’t want
to admit. I’ve held back checks that came in during the month of
December and didn’t deposit them until January because I wanted to feel
like I made more money in the new year.
You’re still paying the same amount of taxes on that money, but
somehow by doing that it feels different mentally. In your head you
think, “It’s January 2nd and I have cash in the bank already!”
Here is something that someone very financially successful taught me
a long time ago: Don’t ever count what you’ve made this year; Count
what you’ve made your entire adult life. If you do this, you will
always feel abundance.
Instead of thinking “Wow, I’m having an off year,” think I’ve made
$20 Million so far! You feel much more abundant when you do that. You
don’t have to count and keep track of every little deal, and you don’t
need to compare yourself to others.
This same abundance principle applies to your success in meeting the
opposite sex. So many guys will think, “God am I having a bad week!”
They could instead think something like “Wow, I’ve gone on 3,000 dates
and slept with 250 women!” That is an abundance mentality and it will
affect how you interact with people.
So think abundance every day. Walk around and feel that abundance.
Don’t think about how many people you have (or have not) met this
month. Think about how many dates you’ve been on in your life.
When you do this, your energy will change and be open. What happens
then is that every time you talk to someone of the opposite sex, you
will talk to them with a confident open energy and without desperation.
If you have a rough streak where things aren’t happening the way
you’d like, which happens to everyone, then you might have a tendency
to put more pressure on yourself to change things. If you can
concentrate on all the wonderful people you’ve met in your life, then
you’ll radiate the power of an abundance mentality instead of radiating
an air of desperation.
It’s no different than when a professional baseball player is in a
slump. When a baseball player is having a 2-10 slump, the best players
pull themselves out of that slump by thinking “Well, I’ve still got a
.300 average!” If a player is in a 2-54 slump, you can always tell that
he has just been thinking about how badly things have been going for
him and he just keeps pressing. That never works.
In terms of meeting someone of the opposite sex, when you start
pressing you need to take a “time out” and write down all your
successes. Take a day off from chasing, and then go back the next day
with a brand new attitude of how successful your entire life has been.
That’s how you do it. It’s all about the mindset. It’s all about having the ultimate abundance mindset.
Richard “RJ” Jaramillo, is the Founder of SingleDad.com,
a website and social media resource dedicated to single parenting and specifically for the newly divorced, re-married, widowed and single Father with children.
RJ is self employed, entrepreneur living in San Diego and a father of three children. The mission of SingleDad is to help the community of Single Parents
“Make Life Happen…Again!”